If you knew how to scientifically create the best moments of your life, would you do it?

Being able to enter a state of Flow saved me from tough times.

A few years ago I worked in an international music festival and it was one of the most beautiful and formative periods of my life.

However, there were moments that were not too pleasant, which contributed to my personal growth.

A simple solution for a difficult problem

The Festival put physical and mental resistance to the test with 16/17 hours a day of work for 20 consecutive days.

During one of the last editions, I suffered heavy…


Journaling indicates the action of keeping a diary of what happens to us. It is a powerful tool of awareness that helps to face all the challenges that arise, stimulating reflection.

Journaling is an extremely useful practice. Writing helps to rationalize and put black on white; it is often important to understand your thoughts. More than reflection, writing is important because it is already in the field of action.

Those who keep a diary actively face their own destiny by deepening self-awareness.

The free writing process, the stream of consciousness of joyciana memoria, allows one’s deepest self to surface and…


Words are important. Not just the ones we tell the people around us.
Even the ones we say to ourselves. Do we choose them the right way?

According to Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, the period between childhood and old age consists in a long process of emancipation from a state of powerlessness to one of personal control.

Personal control is given by the ability to change situations by intentional action.

What can we control?

Stephen Covey has amply illustrated what he calls “the circle of influence,” or what we can change or influence.

What do we have the power to change…


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Often we read, hear and listen about the “being yourself” thing.

There are many books, even songs and it’s totally cool. But… what does it really mean? I’ve been thinking a lot about “being myself”, and I was wondering how can I be me and who is me?

As everybody (I guess) there are many different versions of “myself”.

I’m myself with my parents, with my closest friends, with my husband, with my volley team, probably with my co-workers… what else?

Nevertheless, each of them can describe me as a different person. And guess what? they all are right.

A…


The Vision Board is a technique for visualizing one’s desires and goals.

If you don’t know how to create it, find it out here.

Having it underhand, or even better under the eye, is advisable because it allows us to keep our attention focused on long-term goals.

It is interesting how, for such important questions, we need a tool that helps us remember them.

  • Where do I want to be?
  • What do I want to do?
  • What do I want to get?
  • What kind of person do I want to become?

This happens for various reasons:

  1. We are continually distracted…

I have always wondered why it is difficult to keep a good habit constant.

  • Maybe I don’t have enough willpower?
  • Is my goal not so important to me?
  • Is it simply laziness?

Some examples:

I would like to meditate in the morning.

To be constant, I decide to take a 21-day meditation course. I follow him with discipline and routine and soon start to feel the benefits.

After 21 days I could start the course again or look for another one.

What happens instead? I quit.

My mind, with subtle tenderness and sweetness, whispers to me that I can take…


I have always wondered why it is difficult to keep a good habit constant.

  • Maybe I don’t have enough willpower?
  • Is my goal not so important to me?
  • Is it simply laziness?

Some examples:

I would like to meditate in the morning.

To be constant, I decide to take a 21-day meditation course. I follow him with discipline and routine and soon start to feel the benefits.

After 21 days I could start the course again or look for another one.

What happens instead? I quit.

My mind, with subtle tenderness and sweetness, whispers to me that I can take…


Michael Fordyce, a psychologist and a pioneer in the field of measurement and empirical intervention of happiness, has identified 14 reasons that distinguish happy people.

Between these:

The organization and planning contribute to the satisfaction of the small results achieved daily and to the pleasant awareness of having made the most of one’s time.

The joy of anticipation

As Shawn Achor argues in his book “The Happiness Advantage”, the anticipation of activity or moment is often more enjoyable than the activity itself.

It has been scientifically proven…


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Let’s try this formula: find the right place where to apply your talents.

We generally associate “talent” to an extraordinary birth gift and with something related to sports, art, and music.

Talent means “natural aptitude or skill”. It seems kind of funny, but it’s hard to realize what skill we have, in what we excel when we do it naturally. We don’t feel it like something “special”. People around us can recognize our talents better than us.

We could be “talented listeners” (it’s a rare talent if you think about it), talented speakers, maybe we are great in dealing with…


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It will add meaning to your life.

“Sit down”.

When my uncle died last December, I cried no stop for 7 days. And I’m still crying once in a while.

I’ve experienced an infinite sadness and I felt so empty and useless.

I felt small.

I’ve always recognized his value. He was a great man, a great inspiration, a great leader and businessman, a very compassionate person.

He was one of those people who rarely meet in life. I was, I am, so blessed to have known him and to be loved by him. I don’t know if he knew how much he meant to me.

When…

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